Relationships are like constellations: we know what they look like because we can connect the dots. Constellations require social agreements. Too often we get caught in the trap of making our relationship function the way society says it should. This article explores the authors personal development. She has found a way to find her inner North Star. Referencing herself and having the courage and curiosity to explore the differences between her partner’s views and her own opens dialog to allow space for her intimate relationship to take a shape of its own. Be sure to follow her link to the 36 questions to deepen love.